Dear Abby advises a woman as she tries to navigate a relationship with a man who has two adult children. DEAR ABBY: I’ve been in a relationship with a man for the last five years. “Julian” came into my life after my husband passed.

She is becoming a bone of contention in the relationship because I cannot stand how she uses guilt to manipulate her dad.

The man feels guilty about being absent as she grew up and doesn't recognize how judgmental and scheming she has become.

Because Julian wasn’t there while she was growing up, his guilt makes it especially hard for him to see her for who she is. Amber and I do not care for each other, and the cracks are starting to show.

The unvarnished truth is that Amber is a snotty, judgmental woman who thinks she’s better than everyone. Because Julian wasn’t there while she was growing up, his guilt makes it especially hard for him to see her for who she is.

I’ve been in a relationship with a man for the last five years. “Julian” came into my life after my husband passed. He is 65; I’m 45. Julian has two grown daughters, 36 and 27. The older one and I get along famously.